Stay away from crabs! Mind out of the gutter people. Well you should avoid the other kind too, but I am talking about the kind you find on the beach. Unless you are like my son and I who looked for crabs 2 years in a row without any luck.
 
Why do you need to avoid crabs? Not the actual animal, but the people that act like them. They could be the reason you are not reaching your goals.
 
Have you ever caught crabs? (Mind, gutter, out) If you catch one you have to put a lid on the container, but if you catch more than one you don't. Any guesses why? Because whenever one of the crabs starts to climb out of the container, the others will pull him down.
 
Do you have people like that in your life? Get rid of them! Have you ever heard this quote?
 
  • "You are, or will become, the average of the five people you associate with the most." - Brian Carruthers

That goes for your health too. Do your spouses, friends, families, etc... lift you up, encourage, and improve your health? Or are they always negative, think you're wasting your time, and push bad habits on you? Let's face it, there are a lot of haters out there. People that do not want you to lose weight and get in shape. Why? Because misery loves company. They need someone to stay in the bars with all night, smoke cigarettes with, eat fast food with, watch TV and lay around all the time with. That way, their abnormal behavior seems normal.

Think back to your college days (not my college days, I stayed in and studied my books, the Bible, and worked on a sweet quilt) and how much people drank. It seemed normal because so many people were doing it, but if you did that now people would think you were Otis from the Andy Griffith Show.

Someone drinking a beer at 9 AM is generally frowned upon in the real world. You don't have to be a teetotaling, health nut with no friends to get in shape, lose weight, etc... But really look at the people you hang around the most. Maybe it's time to talk to that person (or persons) who is dragging you down and let them know that you are totally committed to living a healthier lifestyle and you need their help.

Then you have two options. One, get them on board with the program! A true friend steps up when they see a friend with a need. Two, use that as fuel for your fire. If somebody sees you are trying to better yourself and tries to trip you up, is that someone who cares about you? That's when you get in shape to spite them. Maybe not the emotionally healthiest thing to do, but you can go a long way with the "I'll show you" attitude. Spite burns bright. I'm pretty sure I just made that up, feel free to use it.

Find out who really wants to help you and let's do this thing!